Then after about a week of emails my phone rang one night...
It was much later than I normally received phone calls and I wasn't expecting anyone to call. On the other end of the phone came an incredibly kind voice. "Hi is this Tina? This is Ben." And from that point there was never a lull in the conversation. We fired questions at each other. We talked about our children. I told him that I had wanted traditional names for my kids, but also family names that meant something. So I named them Sarah **** and Benjamin *****. "Wait!" he said, "Did you just say your son's name is Benjamin *****? You have got to be kidding me." I was stunned for a moment. I couldn't understand what could possibly be wrong with that. Then he explained to me that not only did he have the same first name as my son, he also had the same middle name. This was getting a little spooky.
We talked that night on the phone for hours. Actually, it was more like hours and hours. Ben asked me when he could come up and see me. Even though everything was great, I wasn't sure that I was ready for meeting right away. I had responsibilities to my children for the next little while. I explained to him that I wouldn't be comfortable with him meeting the kids for a while. We set a time to meet about a week and a half away. But I didn't want to wait that long to talk to him again.
We got off the phone late that night with the promise that he would call me again the next day. Our phone conversation the next day was even longer than our first conversation. We were both serious about the fact that if we were going to date someone, we weren't playing any games. We rapid fired questions at each other. I loved making up 'hypothetical' situations and asking him how he would react to such situations. After a week of phone conversations I felt like I knew him better than I had ever known anyone. Our lives just seemed to snap together like pieces of a puzzle. We didn't completely agree with each other on everything, but we totally understood each other.
The designated time that we planned to meet quickly approached. Breakfast we decided would be the best way to start our first date. We could spend an entire day together if things continued to click.
The morning of our first date was a beautiful morning...
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